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Treading The Line Of Morality: War, Women, and Wayward Sons

Levi Brackman, August 25, 2023August 25, 2023

In the complex nature of human decisions, where does one draw the line between choice and consequence, between moral clarity and ambiguity? Deuteronomy 21 offers a profound exploration into this very quandary. As we journey through tales of warriors, captive beauties, complexities of love and hate in marriage, and the fate of a rebellious son, we are led to ponder on the inherent power and repercussions of our choices, especially those that tread the delicate line of morality.

The Beautiful Captive: A Morally Ambiguous Choice

The Torah narrates the scenario of a soldier, triumphant in battle, who encounters a beautiful captive woman and wishes to take her as his wife. The wording “כי תצא למלחמה על אויבך” – when you go out to war over your enemies (Deuteronomy 21:10) signifies this is not a war of defense but rather one of choice. As noted by the revered medieval commentator Rashi (1040-1105), this war was initiated based on personal choice.

The very act of choosing to wage war carries negative undertones. Opting to conquer people and territories, spurred by hatred towards enemies, is morally questionable. Once one steps onto this precarious moral ground, unintended consequences emerge, like the desire for the captive woman.

The Two Wives: Treading a Fine Moral Line

The narrative then presents the law of a man torn between two wives – one he loves and another he despises. The choice to have two wives, as denoted by “כי תהיינה לאיש שתי נשים” – when there is to a man two women (Deuteronomy 21:15), echoes the moral ambiguities of the preceding scenario. The Baal Haturim (1269-1343) adds weight to this by quoting the Mishnah in “Ethics of the Fathers (2:7)”, warning that multiple wives could lead to strife and witchcraft.

The Rebellious Son: Consequences of Past Choices

The narrative crescendos with the story of a rebellious son, captured in “כי יהיה לאיש בן סורר ומורה” – when there is to a man a rebellious son (Deuteronomy 21:18). While it might seem that having such a son isn’t a conscious choice, the Torah’s phrasing implies otherwise. This tale is not about accidental misfortune but the ripple effect of earlier choices. Rashi, citing the Midrash Tanchuma, states that such a rebellious offspring might directly result from marrying a captive woman.

Drawing from the depths of Deuteronomy 21, one discerns a series of interwoven legal principles that accentuate the paramount importance of ethical decisions. The initial two instances hone in on intentional actions, yet the concluding narrative underscores the unforeseen ramifications of those very decisions. It cautions that venturing too close to the boundaries of moral acceptability can usher in unintended and uncontrollable outcomes.

In essence, Deuteronomy 21 serves as a timeless reminder of the intricate web of morality. Emphasizing the link between choices and consequences nudges us to tread the path of righteousness, ensuring that our decisions today don’t haunt us tomorrow.

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